What is Dismissive Behavior?
Dismissive behavior is when someone minimizes your feelings, concerns, or experiences. They act like your emotions don't matter or that you're overreacting, making you feel invalidated.
This pattern is harmful because it makes you feel like your feelings are wrong or unimportant. Over time, you may stop expressing yourself or start doubting your own emotions.
What It Looks Like
Here are common examples of dismissive behavior:
"You're being dramatic. It's not that big of a deal."
Changes the subject or ignores you when you express something important.
"Everyone goes through this. Stop making it about you."
"You're too sensitive. You need to toughen up."
Laughs at your concerns or makes jokes when you're trying to be serious.
How to Spot It
Your feelings are invalidated: Healthy people validate your feelings even when they disagree. If you consistently feel dismissed or unheard, that's a pattern.
You stop sharing: Do you find yourself not bothering to express your feelings because you know they'll be dismissed?
You question yourself: After interactions, do you wonder if you're overreacting or if your feelings are valid?
They minimize everything: No matter what you bring up, it's "not a big deal" or "you're overthinking."
What to Do About It
If you recognize dismissive behavior:
- Your feelings are valid: You have a right to feel what you feel, regardless of how they react.
- Communicate clearly: "When you dismiss my feelings, it makes me feel unheard. I need you to listen."
- Set boundaries: If they can't respect your emotions, that's a serious problem in the relationship.
- Don't minimize yourself: Don't start saying "I know it's stupid, but..." Your feelings matter.
- Consider the relationship: You deserve someone who validates and respects your emotional experience.
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